There are days when a woman needs to embrace what is important to her; a beloved child, a parent, her partner, a friend.
This is not one of those days. Today I wish to meet the needs of someone else. I take my cue from Brenda Ueland, who said meeting the needs of other people is …
… why the lives of most women are so vaguely unsatisfactory. They are always doing secondary and menial things (that do not require all their gifts and ability) for others and never anything for themselves. Society and husbands praise them for it (when they get too miserable or have nervous breakdowns) though always a little perplexedly and half-heartedly and just to be consoling. The poor wives are reminded that that is just why wives are so splendid — because they are so unselfish and self-sacrificing and that is the wonderful thing about them! But inwardly women know that something is wrong. They sense that if you are always doing something for others, like a servant or nurse, and never anything for yourself, you cannot do others any good. You make them physically more comfortable. But you cannot affect them spiritually in any way at all. For to teach, encourage, cheer up, console, amuse, stimulate or advise a husband or children or friends, you have to be something yourself. […] If you would shut your door against the children for an hour a day and say; ‘Mother is working on her five-act tragedy in blank verse!’ you would be surprised how they would respect you. They would probably all become playwrights.
and from Michelle Obama:
Women in particular need to keep an eye on their physical and mental health, because if we’re scurrying to and from appointments and errands, we don’t have a lot of time to take care of ourselves. We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own “to do” list.
Today I am going to meet my needs. I am going to sit in my chair and absorb what little sun there is. I will probably doze off over a book. I might knit another square for the blanket or I will meditate. Maybe I will just sit and do nothing.
Today I put myself on top of my list.
What will you do today, or tomorrow, to meet your needs, fulfil your dreams?
This post was, in part, inspired by Calensariel, over at Impromptu Promptlings ~ and peculiar ponderings. Pay her a visit, you will be well rewarded.